- 3 days ago
- 5 days ago
food for thought
- 2 weeks ago
"My best day had to be the day after I wrapped Guardians of the Galaxy. I was very homesick and coming home to my wife, and my home, and to my son, who was at the time 13 months old. My wife told me there’s a chance he won’t recognize you—but that’s okay that happens all the time. He doesn’t know, he might be a little shy…"
IM GOING TO CRY
one reason I don’t want to shave my mustache is my daughter has never seen my bare upper lip and I fear she won’t recognize me
(via wilwheaton)Source: pedro-quill
- 1 month ago
"Everyone knows that being the parent of an infant is hard. There’s the sleeplessness, the screaming fits to tend to, the loss of autonomy, the social isolation and the sheer monotony of it.
Everyone also knows that there is only one socially acceptable response to this predicament: a dogged insistence that the adoration you feel for your child makes all the sacrifices worthwhile. It’s “the toughest job you’ll ever love.” The only valid excuse for feeling sad or despondent is a postpartum hormonal crash. What other justification could there be for greeting your bundle of joy with despair?
This is the ideology of modern parenting, and it can lead to unnecessary feelings of guilt and shame, for it ignores an inconvenient truth: that many women and men experience significant psychological distress in response to becoming a parent and that much of this distress isn’t caused by a hormonal epiphenomenon of the birth process. It is driven instead in large measure by the objectively bleak circumstances new parents often face. That you love your child is not always sufficient to counteract this reality."
- 1 month ago
- 2 months ago
He turned five today and I have no idea what comes next. (Warning: personal, unfiltered rant follows. Gets gross. This is your final warning)
- 2 months ago
"You seem to have become far more Ernest in your feminist beliefs recently. Was that spurned by the birth of your daughter? If so, why?"
-from my Ask.fm page
If you look back over the course of my writing, I think you’ll see this was in the works long before I had a daughter. Step One was probably moving to Japan, a country where sexism is alive and well. I never gave women’s rights too much thought in the US (because I mistakenly assumed the issue had been settled) but now that I’m living in a society that struggles to respect women on even a cursory level, it has opened my eyes to the general abuse women face around the world.
Step Two was the gradual inclusion of feminist issues in the world of video games, which means I owe Anita Sarkeesian a drink. Her "Tropes vs Women in Video Games" series has been fascinating to watch and at the same time, the revolting backlash of hate it has sparked has been a sobering look at so-called “gamers.” When you see a tide of ugliness on that scale, you have to make a stand. Staying quiet is tantamount with condoning their behavior.
Step Three was probably my daughter, because she is adorable and, just like with my son, I want her to enjoy the things I enjoy and I want her to have the same opportunities to find happiness as he does. Why shouldn’t she have that chance? Because she’s not a boy? That’s ridiculous and insulting yet it’s a real train of thought that exists in the world.
Step Four was “all of 2013” because, between the "zombie bait" monstrosity, Anita’s videos finally coming out, and a steady stream of high-profile ultra-sexist controversies, I was fed up. What people kept dismissing as isolated incidents, as anomalous conduct of a few bad apples, as “mistakes” or “poor choices” or “just jokes,” I recognized as systemic and wrong. And just like with the backlash I saw in 2012, I decided I had to make a stand. Either I chose to ally myself with feminists, or I was silently endorsing everything misogynists said about women.
Oh yeah, and Step Five was the internet attacking my friend Dina for getting a job in a video game company because she’s a woman and a feminist. It’s all too easy to roll your eyes and laugh at conspiracy theorists and irrationally angry nerds when they’re talking about Half-Life 3 or DLC being already on the disc. It’s quite another thing to see them gang up to slander, threaten, and silence someone you care about.
The more I think about it, I don’t think I turned to feminism as much as feminism came to me. Feminism has been a voice of reason in an increasingly loud, angry chorus of men in this world who won’t shut up and listen to anyone else’s opinions. Men who insist women can’t do certain things because of “nature” or “history” or “realism” or…fuck it, if I start listing their bullshit excuses for being sexist, this post will never end.
So yeah, I hope that answers your question, and I in turn ask you this: why aren’t you more earnest in your feminist beliefs? Because is it us against them right now, and they control the goddamn world. We need to step up or they win by default.
Who’s with me?
- 3 months ago
Spotted a list of students’ “wants” at school today, found it interesting.
- 9 kids wanted Yokai Watch stuff, the toy/anime/game franchise that might be in America soon? Way more popular than I would have guessed.
- 8 wanted Nintendo stuff: 3 said 3DS, 2 said Wii U, one said Mario Kart 8, one Pokemon XY, and one “DS”
- 4 want mobile devices (iPhone, iPad, smartphone, mobile phone)
- 2 just said “games”
- one boy said PSP, which is probably older than he is
- one kid wants Gurando Sefuto Ooto (GTA V? probably not) which is definitely not for children
- 3 want RC cars
- 3 want money
- one kid wants “to go to foreign countries” (good for you!)
- and the rest asked for odd sporting goods, books, and the like
- oh, and one kid just wants “my own room” :(